Видео

I had this happen to me working in a daycare a lady at reception just decided to pick on me week in and week out for months. I kept my cool acted nice and civil until she went too far and tried it harm me professionally I quickly snapped and put her in her place. She let it go and never ever bothered me again!! I think she had relationship issues outside of work.

Es ist inspirierend zu sehen, wie dieses Gespräch zu neuen Ideen und Entdeckungsmöglichkeiten führt. Es ist ein Beweis für die Kraft der Zusammenarbeit.👄

My choice of the right and moral thing that harms the others should not harm us in any way. On the contrary, it should comfort us because it is the right way to do the right thing. I will not care about their or her or his opinion after that because he is on the wrong path. However, I need to use Fe I must continue to pay attention and help those close to me and always talking to them. Stay healthy infjs.

thanks! i've been under attack by people wanting to force me from my HOME...and some are COPS but my inner peace comes from counter-attacking on LEGAL GROUNDS...they used lies from a two language do nothing to spin-up people who do not speak my language...took away my city water on lies stole my motorcycle out of jealousy...trying to claim i am crazy for NOT wanting to be their FRIEND 🤣

❤

It's usually the people who like to show off and do the complete opposite of humble to someone to "prove a point" who like to humble an already quiet INFJ. Make it make sense 🤦🏽‍♀️

The only fear I have is that once the person feels that initial "uh oh this is going to cause me pain so I better not do it again" they will feel embarassed and that embarassment will turn into revenge, and then they will go about sabotaging us in more covert ways so as to still try to be more powerful without us realizing... like I feel like that has happened to me before... anyone else? How do you deal?

Love Wenzes and this feed and this particular article. ~13.00 Wenzes is right, sometimes you need to walk away. The sociopaths have read you, closed down the escape routes, have lookouts ready to destroy your reputation on your next foray. This is where some of those INFJ skills come into their own. They have driven you out of the feeding grounds, the nesting sites, the communal backslapping, and you are about to go into the wilderness. Read the land and game play. Pull back your expenses as much as possible, make sure you have the necessary in place, go low profile, know who and what you are, and your priorities. Wenzes has gone on to do really well (hat tip to her). My own story was taking a payout in inauspicious circumstances, writing a book (aka manifesto) of my key priorities, and working out how to bring in enough money while staying away from the traps and snares of the sociopathic coterie. Blacklisted and blackwalled. But you know what? Not dead and out for the count, and lots of other worthy souls "get" the bigger picture stuff and are playing. One of the gifts of INFJs is they can shove us in the swamps, wastelands, deadlands, or furnaces. We are supposedly dead and written off but we are still alive and bringing forth the new sustainable paradigms. Those things sent to destroy us act as muses that instead transform us. Clay turned into iron, iron into gold. One gift of the INFJ is transmutation.

💖💖🙏🙏🌟✨🌟✨✨

I can really relate to this. Prayer really helped me to accept God's purposes for myself. It took me 8-9 years to work on this. The past few years, I put people first but realization came and I want to be the best who God wanted and desire me to be. I want the best for myself too. I know how much I am nothing without Jesus and yet He loves me and he cares for me because I am important to Him.

❤Thank you.

Sounds like projection to me- considering many of your videos are about accidentally breaking people egos - how do you know these people are trying to humble you?? The part of mbti that makes it so special is that we don’t just learn about our own types, but about other types to-infj’s have blinde spot extroverted thinking - so types extroverted thinking up high in their stacks naturally offend infj’s - consider maybe in the same way infj’s are misunderstood , infj’s very often misunderstand other types intentions .. food for thought… as you said “often they don’t even know their behaviour is unacceptable “ Unacceptable to your type sure - or maybe just different

Get a machine to do your work for you. Learn how to talk to that machine.

“Oh, this feels painful, and we want to fix that.” wow wow wow

There is a difference between sitting in a classroom cramming for trig and sitting there wondering how to make a baseball bat on a CNC lathe.

I was tested, took an exam with others in an auditorium at UALR in '90 and given some mumbo jumbo designation, still have the eval stashed away somewhere. I refused to answer some questions I considered immoral. Why? Why the test?In the Navy during Nam this was referred to as psychological debriefing. So black ops recruits at the campuses not merely at military training centers. During this time or thereabouts all that cocaine was going thru Mena which I knew nothing about.

I had to to X out many people in my life. And kove away cause i could no longer be surrounded by degenerates. So im about 10 out ifca 10 year relationship and she was great. Thaen i noticed shecwas so self upsorrbed and never too responsibility forcher words or actions. I am a Empath and have complete control of my emotional Well being. I observe. Dating at 45 in this world full of Garbafw human beings . I just care to muxh i feel everyones pain and enervy. Its gets tiring but i am who i am. Th rest if yall i dont give a damn

~ it was a revelation when I first heard you share our “slower pace” characteristic, I’d never heard this. I just wonder WHY? Why do we move slower and why is our energy lower? I just have been aware of this characteristic in me from probably the age of 7 or 8 - when my grandmother came to wake me up because I was still sleeping at 9 am and she called me lazy. That hurt. And so, I beat myself up about this for most of my life. I still lament over this, and that’s why I’d like to understand what is the root of this? I’m not able to commit to the July kick off of INFJ Epic Life boot camp, but I do believe that I’ll be READY when your next one comes around. TY Wenzes, you embracing & pursuing your unique gift in this specific area is an ongoing & IMMENSE gift to me❣️

They find themselves suddenly unemployed with no idea why and half crying.

Back before Wenzes was born, I had a girlfriend who was an autistic lesbian. I'm a straight male. She took Xanax in her teens. I never got married.

Please make more videos on infj anger... How to deal with it and how not to feel so ashamed of this all the time

If someone tries to humble another it is likely they themselves are in need of humbling. Some say you see your own issues in others. Scripture talks of removing the speck from your own eye before trying to removing the log from another’s. Yet all should seek/try to do no harm even to those intentionally or not, in truth or error, whom targets them.

Thank you for explaining this. This happened to me a few days ago, and now I understand it better. I felt bad for putting the other person in her place, but now I realize I handled it appropriately. She will never have the opportunity to treat me badly again.

I diddint accept how someone special works I tried to be controlling. I apologized to her and she knows im supportive. I just want her to feel happy. Thats a mistake I made in the past.

I'm ENFJ and had a Justin Bieber melt down few years ago. But I'm back much healthier emotionally and understanding accepting and better. I think she knows I apologize and we as INFJ ENFJ learn and grow and get better. Also your awesome. And this video is so right good for defenses from ESTP and ESTJ.

Thanks!

Thank goodness INFJ’s are rare.

Martyr, walk away at the worst possible time for the other person forcing them to find and train a replacement. They can say what they want about you but it really don't matter anymore after you walk off.

❤

Thanks so much for this excellent insight 💖 I am approaching my 50th birthday and I DEFINITELY feel much younger and more joyful than I did when I was 39. I no longer have toxic relationships draining me and I have stopped trying to live by twisted, debilitating societal norms. 🥳

Difficult person. Difficult life.

It’s impossible to humble me, an INFJ, when I am extremely humble. We’re already humble.

"Letting them have it"; I'll add, encouraging them as a compliment, all the while knowing most flaws that are readily evident. Then they get carried away, "high and mighty"...😂. Then it seems like they are just asking for it. Next thing you know, someone says " you should be humble". 😂😂😂. LmaO. I don't even care enough to bother people with random advice, especially when I'm not a master of the subject myself. Then here comes a GOOFY 🤪...tryna tell me how something is done and they can't follow directions given to them in pictures, words, graphs and video. 😊.

Great topic Wenzes

Don’t care if someone is INFJ, ADHD, IBS, DEA, ATF, CIA, FBI. If you’re annoying. Please step away from me. One giant step out the door. Thank you.

I too do that - I give fair warning to said person "like, you really don't want to do xyzzy..." to match their energy before I go off. With a very serious stern look like "F around and find out". I also like to give the "I'm pleasant but don't play with me" energy.

Interesting topic, definitely something to think about. I want to say that I typically will shut someone out, completely out, if they are determined to "humble" me. I have a former boss coming to my mind and I simply walked away, gave no notice, just straight bounced and said I was done with her. Also my ex husband, I cut him out, went radio silent forever. I feel like not saying anything is sometimes the loudest thing you can do to a certain type of individual.

Sounds like you're talking about kendrick lamar and drake lol.

These anti trump commercials are so annoying

I use my vocabulary as a Black Smith uses a hammer. 77% of my life experience has been Solo. Why would change that now?

Ok, I'll bite, what does the acronym stand for, I know I'll regret this but I have to know what this series of letters represents

I had an internship working with police/detectives and there was one who would continuously play the female detectives off of each other. He wasn't mean per se but had this habit of going from girl to girl saying something slightly rude and then walking away. He never did this to me except at the very end. When he did I walked right up to him, shouldered him hard twice, and said "don't mess with me, I know muay thai". I went into the other room and sat down to calm down. Then I realized I didn't have to hide there because of him so I walked confidently past his cubicle and he was sitting there almost afraid. I was surprised at both my bravery and also his reaction, because he came off very suave and confident all the time. I think he knew it was a mistake to mess with me. However, as an INFJ, I do feel very tired of these power games. I seem like a magnet for it my whole life and really wish I could just have some peace. I'm not sure if it's even possible now, I'm 36 and it seems wherever I go, these problems follow.

Are these 16 personality typing really based on science? I can't find typing for others I know/ does not predict well about what should be peoples typing. I'm either an INTJ or an INFJ for like 80% of the time sometimes I'm not like how they say these personality types are at all but it's what I score and I am introverted and pensive but also I have over-active mirror neurons. Wenzes, you seem too smart to be following tea leafs readings I wonder how you see these personality tests..?

I love hearing stories of people standing up for themselves!

If I think you’re a weirdo. Always be yourself. Just not near me.

There’s a covert narc at my church who I have decided to door slam, because she said I am the most intense person she’s ever met and she hates intense. Ok, I will respect that boundary you are putting out and also great, because now I can protect myself. She went of vacation with her family, and they got back this morning. I successfully did not engage in conversation with her despite her best efforts to get me to talk, and this caused narcissistic injury. When I was going around offering to take up people’s empty plates at potluck, and I got to her table and asked her husband (the preacher and also someone I suspect is a narc or is displaying narc behavior at least) she yelled at me in front of everyone and told me to go away. I mean, cool. I will respect those wishes to not serve you or any of your family. Thank you for releasing me from this bondage! Anyway, I say all that because she and her husband have accused me of not being humble, of being a know-it-all, arrogant, and that I don’t have a heart of service (which is the opposite of true as you know INFJ’s are all about service)… Despite the pain that caused me, I knew it was coming. I cried for a bit just because it still blows my mind people can be that hypocritical and cruel, but it feels so good to recognize the humility and the strength God has given me to deal with this behavior, and I am grateful to God for your channel and learning to radically accept myself.

Once a patient who’s a food tester and 10 years younger than me tried to teach me how to be a medical professional… She literally said if you wanna be professional *do this and that* and spent *whole hour* questioning my medical knowledge. Since she’s so confident that I wouldn’t bite her back as her logic was “customer is god” I didn’t budge and just answered her everything in medical term until she totally lost by their meaning, gave her smirk, charged her for my time while professionally door slammed by made sure that she will be unable to see me ever again. While always working overtime and dedicating to lot of charity work, I reminded myself that I did good by donating my precious time to her and let nothing taint the proud of myself.

Thank you, Wenzes! This has been very insightful! I believe this applies not only to humbling but any other situation/attitude we don't appreciate. I usually stick to the first and second approach, especially since I always try to keep in mind where people are coming from. But at some point, when the situation repeats itself non-stop, it's important to say something and set some boundaries. Setting said boundaries can be a challenge when people tend to take things personally, but I'm done with avoiding confrontation.

The problem with INFJs is they have X-ray vision into your soul and can see your deep internal wounds very clearly and don't tempt them to attack.

As an infj I can see the insecurities and masks people wear and I very often ignore them and look past them. If a person were to come at me to try and humble me, I can crush their soul and there is no looking back for them after that. I know I have that power.